War of the Sexes

Now that women are empowering themselves and their voices are starting to be truly heard, the battle of the sexes is no more. Now it's a war. Both sides are equal adversaries and casualties strew the battlefield. On New Year's Eve, for the first time in my life I had a girl storm out and leave me standing there dumbfounded. For the record, I did talk and dance with another girl who had a non-present boyfriend, yet my date decided to show up at 2 AM to this New Year's Eve party. I admit I've done some heinous stuff in my day, but there's a first time for everything. My low was when I cussed out my first love after I broke up with her. Naturally, she was very protective of me. One day she tried to fight a girl who kept climbing into my bed naked after parties but later grew mad that we'd actually done something in my bed. My ex would have utterly destroyed her, trust me, and I couldn't allow her to face university disciplinary action. So I said what I had to, to prevent her from doing what I knew she wanted to since she couldn't hate me. I have made selfish and selfless decisions from time to time concerning women I was involved with, but as any man will argue: not all women deserve our mercy. I can't stand when women say how they're choosing to be like a man. They won't return calls, won't show up, won't be forthright or honest, will date other men, sleep with who they want to sleep with and the list goes on. Women are not men. No matter what you cannot be a man so it is not your place to tell us how a man is supposed to act or behave. That is what fathers and other male role models are to us. When men care we show up, we return calls, we even initiate them, and are willing to go to whatever lengths we must to win her over. But we focus on other things because we've learned not to make just any woman the center of our world. Our mothers taught us that. Many women won't appreciate us, only want to use us to get what they want, or can't provide what we are looking for – selfless, unconditional love and support. Women teach this lesson to their sons because they see their sons as becoming great men, but then can't show this same consideration to other women's sons. That is why I'm sorry to report from the front lines, that women acting like men doesn't work. Like it or not, it is a man's world. Besides, I question how many women saying they'll act like men actually end up with the really great man they ultimately want? I think all they do is find a better way of dealing with the assholes who come along, forever dating around and not finding great because they prepared themselves to deal with shit. Hey, if you treat them like leftovers, don't be surprised if you're left holding trash. Dating is a female concept. After all they're the ones who need to biologically court to decide which prospectives can stay and which should go. Simple men like what they like, when they like it. Complex men are different. They have goals, dreams, passions, and a plan that their woman needs to support and embrace as if it were her own. But men are fundamentally simple in one way: The more attractive we find you, the more of your shit we will tolerate. The more shit you make us tolerate, the more we'll look for someone better. The more we look, the more open we are to someone else. The more open we are, the more likely we'll do something with someone else. The more we do with someone else, the more of your shit we can tolerate. I think the trick on both sides is to focus on what you want and accept nothing less, never settling. Although, compromise is crucial. Who you find may not be perfect, but do they have enough of what you want and are looking for to be happy AND can accept their negatives and flaws to work together to build something great? We can't change someone, but we can help and support them become better if they so choose. Have patience and don't be afraid to be single for a long time. If you are tired of being single and uninvolved, well then this is the war, tread carefully because it might seem like you aren't holding out for something great. But remember this: it's still a man's world because men chase the box women have allowing women to set the rules of the game. This means a man becomes a player in this game and can choose to follow the rules, break the rules, ignore the rules, cheat, or do as he sees fit. Because when men set the rules, women behave the exact same way.